5 Ways For After School Harmony


We’ve all been there. Our children may be perfect angels and listen well while they are in school, but once they get home, all bets are off! Why is there the after school frustration? Where did the tears come from when the school day went so seamlessly? These 5 Ways For After School Harmony may help to make sure that the whole day can be peaceful at home, even when the kids get home from school!

Dirt And Boogers created the best tips to help when kids start testing boundaries once they get home from school. It can make any parent frustrated and angry when your child won’t listen to a thing you say once they walk in the door!

But when you think about it, Dirt And Boogers came up with the most perfect reason why our children may do this when they get home from school. They are losing their cool around you because you are the safest person that they can fall apart around! They’ve spent their whole day keeping it together and dealing with a lot of emotions, so when they get home, they let loose and know they can stop restraining themselves without facing the consequences of teachers at school.

And when you think about it, of course you want your child to feel safe enough to fall apart when they have you to lean on!

But…you also need to set boundaries for what your child needs to manage once they do arrive home from a long day at school. So how can you successfully help your child transition from home to school in a successful manner? That’s where Dirt And Boogers steps in!

Parent taking child to school

Parent taking child to school

  1. Greet Without Drilling Your Child With Questions

After a long day at school, save all of the questions until your child has had a chance to unwind. Who likes to be bombarded with questions as soon as they walk in the door? I know I don’t! If that was me, it would completely stress me out!

Instead, Dirt And Boogers suggests to greet them with statements. Say things like, “It’s good to see you again” and “Welcome home”! Once your child has had a chance to wind down, ask about their day using open-ended questions. These kinds of questions prevent the dreaded one-word answers that never get you anywhere!

Asking questions like, “What was your favorite part of your day?”, “What kinds of things did you do in school?”, “Who did you play with today?”, etc. will help them feel like they have the power to own the conversation, as well!

2. Feed Your Kids After School

Hey, I know how I feel when I’ve had a long day and haven’t had a chance grab a snack. I start getting a little short-tempered and lose my cool much faster than I normally would!

Therefore, make sure you have some healthy snacks ready when they walk in the door! Filling them with energy and getting a little food will help them to be more open to a good afternoon! Fruits, veggies, yogurts, nuts and a nice big glass of water or milk will always do the trick!

3. Let Your Child Rest

A little downtime is key for your child to process their day and handle the stress they may have had to deal with at school! Let them have some time to play and blow off a little steam!

You know your child best. Do they need to burn off energy by running around outside or do they need a little relaxing time by playing tinker toys inside?

Once they have a little time to relax and unwind, you’ll be amazed how well the rest of the evening at home will go!

4. Enforce Rules and Consequences Consistently

While you want to make sure you allow your child to decompress after school, that doesn’t mean that they get to do whatever they want when they come home and rules get thrown out the window!

Dirt And Boogers discussed how children thrive when they know the routine and what is expected of them, so keep things as normal as possible. Let them know that what happens when rules aren’t followed and that they will be disciplined.

5. Make Sure to Connect and Focus On Your Child

You have to make sure that you spent time connecting with your child when they are getting used to a new routine after school! They may push boundaries to see what you will accept if you are lax about what is happening.

By spending one-on-one time with your child, you will be giving them the focus that they need! Even 10-15 minutes will help. This is the time to be present and ask those open-ended questions to connect on their school day.

Making sure that your child knows that you are available and present for them, they will know that they are important and being listened to!

And just like that, the after school routine will start going in a much more positive direction!

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One Amazing Tip to Talk to Children


Have you ever been talking to a child of yours and you feel like they haven’t even heard a thing you said? You are not alone! Dr. Robyn Silverman talks about this One Amazing Tip to Talk to Children when you just don’t think you’re getting through.

Let’s face it. We’ve all asked our child to put their toys away, clean up their room, get ready for school, and more. Soon, tensions rise, as things just aren’t getting done and before you know it, you may start yelling to get your child to pay attention! How else are you going to get them to listen?! It can be infuriating!

So what do you have to do to get the respect that you are looking for?

Dr. Robyn Silverman has a term for this kind of parenting… the “back-of-the-head parenting”. More often than not, kids won’t respond well when voices get raised. They won’t tune in and soon will not think it’s a big deal at all if you raise your voice to get their attention.

Children who have focusing issues tend to have so much going on in their brain at one time, that you yelling at them may not even be the loudest one they are hearing!


So the tip that will help your kids tune in, instead of tune you out, will be to engage more than one of their senses. Talk to them and engage their eyes AND their ears! That means that soon, you will be the focus that they should be paying attention to!

Still not getting the results you’re looking for? You may need to turn it up a notch and use a three-sensory approach that Dr. Robyn Silverman uses with her own kids.

Crouch down, look them straight in the eyes and use your voice to convey what you need them to know. Rest your hands softly on their shoulders or arms, too. This will ensure that you will have their full attention and soon, they’ll be able to tune you in the way you are looking for! Here is an example from Dr. Robyn Silverman:

“Noah; we are leaving in 5 minutes. We need to be on time because your friend is waiting and it shows kindness to be on time. Could you please get your shoes and socks on and meet me at the car so we can leave? Thank you. This is going to be fun!”

We all can get overwhelmed and exasperated at times when we are in the middle of a parenting meltdown. But yelling won’t do the trick over and over. We need to utilize other methods of addressing our children to make sure we get their attention and keep it!

This multi-sensory approach will help to keep things in check when the house starts getting a little crazy. It works, is easy to do and will yield the results you’re looking for sooner, rather than later! Good luck!

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10 Tips to Foster a Positive Body Image With Your Daughter

Let’s face it. It can be daunting trying to promote a positive body image when raising a daughter. It can get sticky and thorny and uncomfortable and all of the things that make parenting challenging! We want to say all of the right things and make sure we aren’t promoting negative behavior in our girls as they grow. Hopefully these 10 Tips to Foster a Positive Body Image With Your Daughter will help you navigate these treacherous waters! And as Dr Robyn Silverman found out, this can happen early! Just look at a conversation she recently had with her THREE-YEAR-OLD!

“Mommy; you have a big tushy!”

[Pause. This was one of those moments where I knew I could either mess up totally or help to set the positive body image values that I hold dear. Pause. Breathe. Smile.]

“Well of course I do! I couldn’t have your little ‘Tallie tushy’ on my big Mommy body! Then I couldn’t do all the things I love!”

“Like what?”

“Like…yoga, going for run or chasing after you!”

[I start to tickle her and we have a good laugh.]

“My body allows me to do all my favorite things. What does your body allow you to do?”

“Gahnastics!” She laughed. “And pwaying at the pak!”

“Yes! Out body allows us to do all of those things that we love.”

[I picked her up and we looked in the mirror.]

“Aren’t our bodies amazing? Aren’t WE amazing?”

“Yeah! We amazin’! I amazin’!”


If only all of our conversations about positive body image could be handled with such grace, knowledge and love! What a great example of how to handle all of those questions and comments that can come out of the mouths of our little girls!

By letting them know that our bodies are how we handle all of the tasks that we face, it helps kids know that it should be something that is admired and respected, not feared or embarrassed about! We do all of our favorite activities with our body and it’s how we express all of the emotions that flow through our body day-in and day-out. We NEED these body and have to remember to incorporate how grateful we are for this amazing vehicle that we use to take us wherever we need to go.

Dr. Robyn Silverman shared 10 great tips that we can do everyday, in order to set a positive groundwork for our daughter’s body image. Take a look!

  1. Speak with Gratitude

Make sure your girls hear you talk about the great things your body allows you to do, instead of being frustrated with the way something looks.

2. Create a Fat-Talk-Free Zone

That’s right! Make sure there is an area in your home (maybe the dinner table?) where your child knows they can always be themselves and not worry about what they eat, how they look, or being caught up in the tendencies that so many young girls tend to do.

3. Acknowledge Hot Button Issues

Do you notice that your daughter tends to have more negative things to say about herself after reading a certain magazine? Is it when she hangs around certain people? How about you? What sets you off? Notice what the hot buttons are in your life, as well as hers, and make sure you make some changes to try to stop the negative behavior dead in its tracks!

4. Find People With a Positive Body Mindset

Are you spending too much time with people who are constantly complaining about their bodies? If you do, you may find that your mind tends to travel to those bad places as well. Which is going to be reflected around your daughter sooner or later. If it’s an important friendship, make sure you let that friend know you are trying to embrace a more healthy and positive lifestyle and language and the negative talk is hindering your own progress. Who knows… you may even make changes in the people around you, too!

5. Where is that Nagging Voice Coming From?

If you constantly hear that voice that’s telling you to lose weight, change the way you look, or do something about a body feature that you may feel self-conscious about, figure out where it’s coming from. Is it someone you hang out with now? Was it an old love? Your parents? By realizing where it came from, you can feel free to release it and know that you are moving towards a more positive place for you and your daughter.

6. Perfection? No Way

There is no such thing as being perfect, so stop trying! Let go of the unattainable and start embracing yourself for exactly who you are. You will show your daughter that no matter what, you are a gift and your body should be respected and taken care of!

7. Exercise for the Right Reasons

Make sure you are exercising to feel good, rather than to drastically change your appearance. Yes, changing the way you look may be an added benefit of starting a new exercise program, but it shouldn’t be the reason that we start. And make sure you’re doing something fun to show your daughter exercising isn’t something that should be dreaded!

8. Volunteer

It may seem odd that this tip would help instill a positive body image in our daughters, but when we help others in need, it tends to give us perspective. There are so many important things in life and people who struggle with life or death situations, that it makes our selfish negative body thoughts seem inadequate. Give your life a sense of purpose and your daughter will see how important it is, as well!

9. Be Kind To Yourself

Stop treating yourself to things after you reach a “goal”. Treat yourself to a new outfit now instead! Or go to lunch with a friend instead of hiding out at home. Enjoy a spa day! By showing your daughter that you deserve to be valued NOW because of who you are NOW, they will know they don’t have to hit any sort of milestone before they should feel good enough for anything!

10. Be a Positive Role Model

It may seem intuitive, given the fact that you are trying to instill a positive body image in your daughter, but it’s so important to remember that they watch, listen, and hear everything that you’re saying! Make sure they are repeating things that you want to hear them say!

What great advice and the tips from Dr. Robyn Silverman are sure to instill a more positive way of thinking in your home. By creating a habit of body positivity, girls are going to see the value of loving their own bodies and work hard towards accomplishing just that!

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7 Ways to Help Your Anxious Child

Do you have a child that tends to be nervous, scared and anxious when trying new things? If so, Dr. Robyn Silverman has 7 Ways to Help Your Anxious Child when they are facing times of stress!

If your child continually is asking questions about how they will get through an event without you, what they will do if they are scared, wanting you to accompany them to everything that is out of the norm, this is going to help get you through those tough conversations! It can be hard to watch our child experience these feelings, but it’s imperative to work with them on overcoming their anxiety. We want them to try constructive new things, and this is how you can help them!

  1. Watch The Time

Is your child really tired? It’s probably not the right time to have a conversation on their fears and anxieties. They can be tired after a full day of school, play, activities, etc., but you want to make sure you are having these conversations with them when they are fresh and focused! Let them know that their feelings are important and you want to talk to them about it, but they need to get a good night’s sleep first. Exhaustion will only make it harder!

2. Let your Child Know It’s Ultimately Their Decision

Make sure your kids know that they are in charge of their emotions and if they start feeling anxious or fearful about something, that they can tell that emotion that they are not going to let it control them! Make sure they know that they should feel a sense of ownership when it comes to their feelings and the choices that they make, based on those feelings!

3. Help Them Figure Out What Will Ease Their Anxiety.

What will help them get through an event that they are particularly anxious about? One example that Dr. Robyn Silverman had was to write a note to someone in charge at the event/sleepover/campout, or whatever your child is anxious about, letting them know that your child has a question. But… make sure that’s as far as you go! Your child can then ask the question, based on what will make them feel more comfortable. It sends a message to them that you won’t do it for them, and that you believe in them enough that they can handle the situation on their own. It’s important for kids to speak up for themselves, even if they are using a small reminder (like your note). Make them more empowered!

4. Have Your Child Write Down Their Questions They Want to Ask

Your child may have lots of questions about this new experience that they may have, but are afraid to ask. But if you work with them on writing down all of the questions, it helps them feel that they are going to be listened to and it will ease their fears to know that things may not be as scary as they thought. Help your child learn that they can ask questions, ease fears and gain knowledge that will help them be less anxious in the end!

5. Calm Yourself

OK, if your child is nervous and anxious, their is a decent chance it’s making you anxious, as well. Nobody likes to see their child struggle, no matter what! You may be worried about giving them the wrong advice, or having them struggle to enjoy the experience and want to quit. So don’t be afraid to call in reinforcements! If you need help caring for another child while you’re focusing on this big event, ask for help! Talk about your concerns with people you trust so your own fears don’t come out when talking to your child!

6. Preparation and Problem-Solving Is Part of the Experience

It can take time to get to the point of your child successfully conquering their fear and anxiety, so make sure you celebrate the small wins before that! Acknowledge your child’s bravery when tackling a small part of their anxiety. Are they scared about a sleepover? Congratulate them when they successfully make it through a short playdate during the day! Progress needs to be rewarded so your child knows that they are heading in the right direction!

7. Celebrate The Big Win

Whether they took a few small steps forward or they faced their fear 100% and came out great on the other side, it took courage for their little minds and hearts! Let them know how proud you are of them and encourage them to be proud of themselves! Believing in themselves is going to help them move forward when dealing with the items that make them anxious time and time again!

Dr. Robyn Silverman said that by working on giving our children the tools they need to empower themselves, they will be able to do more than they ever thought was possible! How great that they are on the brink of more courageous firsts that will be coming their way and you’ll know that they can get through them successfully!

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5 Tips for Dealing With a Strong-Willed Child


No matter how much love you have for your little one, sometimes they can drain you when they are constantly refusing to follow direction or listen to what you have to say, as a parent. While this may make for a dynamic, inquisitive and sensitive chid, it can also mean they have a hard time handling those big emotions that they are so in-tune with. Can you say ‘headstrong’? These 5 Tips for Dealing With a Strong-Willed Child from Parenting From The Heart will help you parent those headstrong little beauties that you happen to call your children!


Nobody expects perfect parenting. Life gets in the way and things constantly crop up on a daily basis. Sometimes, you really need to hit that RESET button and work on strategies that will help your strong-willed, sensitive child listen better. These 5 tips will get you started in the right direction.

  1. Figure Out Why They are Upset

What is the core reason they are so upset? Sometimes when they are absolutely at the end of their rope, it’s time to step back and make sure their basic needs have been met. Because if they haven’t, it might be something easy that you can handle that will get their day back on track! Parenting From The Heart had these suggestions to look at:

  • Have they gotten enough to eat?
  • Are they sleeping well?
  • Have you been present for them or are you constantly busy doing other things when they are there?
  • Are you listening to them? Make sure you ask them how they are feeling and help them work through feelings that they are experiencing.

2. Be Empathetic to Your Kids

It’s important to acknowledge when your kids are upset. Empathy is a great thing you can give you child to be more emotionally resilient. By working to re-word their feelings in terms that they can understand, it helps them label what they are feeling, which in turn, helps them move forward.

3. Be Consistent

We all know how well children can test the boundaries of their parents. They always want to see just how far they can take things! This is why it’s so important to be consistent in your discipline. If boundaries aren’t clear, they will always test them. They will push back and before you know it, things are getting worse instead of better. You’ll have to figure out how this will work in your family, but aim for one warning for infractions you deem necessary, with no warnings for things that may be more serious. Soon, you’ll see how your consistency is working to reign in that strong-willed child!

4. Be Present

If your child continues to have a problem with regulating themselves and their emotions, it’s time to give them your undivided attention. It may be the key that you need, so they can understand that they are truly being heard.

5. Get Outside

No matter the season, get outdoors! Fresh air and kids go together like peanut butter and jelly. After some time spent in the great outdoors, kids seem to have such a better time listening and doing the right thing more easily. It may be likely from burning up all of that energy playing and exploring the outdoor world, but ultimately, it can lead to better eating and sleeping. It’s a win-win and this will go hand-in-hand with #1!

If you’re looking for ways to improve behaviors of your little ones who may be more strong-willed than you’re comfortable with, these five tips should work positively on moving things in the right direction!

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5 Ways to Change Your Child’s Negative Behavior


Do you wake up everyday on edge, not knowing what kind of mood your spirited child might be in? House Of Rose Blog has went through these same exact feelings and had SUCH helpful tips to help. These 5 Ways to Change Your Child’s Negative Behavior may just be the lifesaver you’ve been looking for!

House of Rose Blog talks about how she had to DRAG her little boy to PreK and how he wouldn’t cooperate. He would consistently ignore any kind of threat that they would lay down on him. Nothing seemed to work!

Then one day, it affected life at her son’s daycare. They had called her asking her to talk to her son over the phone. He refused to listen to anyone. His teachers were at a loss, he was kicking people and calling people names. And this poor mom’s heart sunk.

If you find yourself in helpless situations when it comes to your child’s behavior, know that you’re not alone! Parenting difficult children has happened since the world was created! You weren’t the first and you won’t be the last. But what can you do NOW to make the situation better?

These small, but impactful changes that House Of Rose Blog made really had a positive effect on helping to correct the behavior that she had finally had enough of. And after she began working with her son, she quickly realized there were two big issues that were affecting his behavior way more than she ever realized:

  1. Sleep – Some nights her son wasn’t falling asleep until midnight. Despite starting the daily bedtime routine hours earlier, he would still find distractions to stay awake for hours.
  2. Diet – She was dealing with one picky little eater!

Finally! She found two things that she COULD be in control of with a little work and effort! And just like that, House of Rose Blog helped to transform her son’s behavior with these 5 tips.

  1. Take Away Something Your Child LOVES!

Maybe it’s a favorite snack. Or a specific toy or blanket? Whatever that item is, your child needs to understand that they don’t get to use that item when they act poorly. If it’s a food or drink that you’re talking about, you may even have an extra benefit – making them try something new! Say you take away juice, or their favorite treat. If you have a picky eater, this is going to force them to try something new and now always run to their favorite stand-by. Yes, they more than likely are going to scream and pitch a fit. But once it’s over? They’re going to know you mean business and will try something new!

2. Create a schedule and stick to it!

If you’re having sleep issues with your child, create that bedtime schedule and STICK TO IT! Be strict about it and make sure that they understand that this schedule is going to be adhered to from here on out! Figure out what type of schedule will work best for you (include bath, bedtime books, cuddle time, etc.) and make sure you keep your child aware, the entire time, of how much longer they have until lights out!

The first few nights may be nothing short of awful. It will take time for your child to assimilate to the new schedule, but you have to stay strong, just as House Of Rose Blog discusses! It will get easier and before you know it, you’ll wonder why things were so hard for so long before you created this new schedule!

3. Don’t Forget Quality Time

Let’s face it. Parenting can be exhausting! By the time the night routine rolls around, you might be tempted to graze through the routine and maybe skip those bedtime books or whatever quality time you may spend with your kids before they fall asleep.


This can be time that they look forward to over the course of their entire day! For those 15 minutes, you are giving them your undivided attention and they crave it! You may be tired, but you can power through those last few minutes before they go to sleep. Before you know it, it will be the extra boost you need to get through your day, because you’ll be enjoying it as much as they are!

4. Set Realistic Expectations

Again, make sure your child knows what they are going to be facing throughout the day. It helps to deter total meltdowns when they otherwise would be caught by surprise and helps you to manage their expectations, too.

Understanding the timeframes on a child’s end can be so important. While you may encounter some unhappy children when you first start this routine, you’ll see that soon, they’ll be appreciative to know what they can expect next. And it will help them know what YOU expect of them, as well!

5. Pray

While many may have this listed as #1, asking God for help is something that House Of Rose Blog felt strongly in doing. She knew she couldn’t do it all on her own and needed God leading the way for her, as well as knowing that he was present for her obstacles with her son. And she knows… God can move mountains!

If you have a “spirited” child, these tips will hopefully help you manage your days and get your sanity back! While it may not clear ALL bad behavior, you hopefully will experience a lot fewer negative behaviors that you had in the past!

And don’t forget… you’re not alone!

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5 Ways To Get Your Child to Love Reading


Getting your child excited about reading can be so much fun, if you start young and go about it in the right way. These 5 Ways To Get Your Child to Love Reading from Nurture Store are great ways to use practical and fun ideas to fill their entire world with a love of books and reading. And what more, as a parent, could you possibly want? Books unlock a a whole new world for everyone who decides to explore them! But too often, it can be a bit of a challenge to get our children to want to read. With so much more exciting technology out there, video games, and other fun tablet activities, there is a lot of competition!

These 5 tips, though, will help children any age gain the knowledge and excitement that books can bring. If you’re wondering when a good time would be to get your kids into the world of reading, this will help you get started!

5 Ways to Get Your Child to Love Reading

Nurture Store gives us a taste of the tips that are inside a much larger book that provides 75 tips on making your child a rock star when it comes to books! But these 5 tips will get you started with clever ideas that will make your child excited about opening the pages of any book they may have!


  1. Make a Personal ABC Book

Not only is this an easy solution for you, as a parent, to put together, but it makes a child super excited to have something personalized to them! You can do things as easy or as high-tech as you want. Do a quick cut-and-glue book with pictures and markers, or print off something more digital from the computer. Whatever you decide, having something that features photos of things they are familiar with, such as toys, family members or pets, is such a great idea. What better way to get them slowly learning what letters of the alphabet make up the world around them!


2. Let your Child Show You How a Book Works

What a great way to let your child show their independence, while walking them through the steps of reading! By giving your child an age-appropriate book and letting them open the pages and point things out to you, they are boosting their own understanding and they feel like a little rock star! Even if they can’t read what they are pointing out, when they tell you their own versions of the story, they are comprehending what is in the book. We love this!


3. Have a Library-Book Parade

This is such a wonderful idea from Nurture Store on how to add a little twist to books your kids already love! There are a few ways you can do this. If you already go to the library on a regular basis and pick out a handful of books, make sure you take them home and display them on a shelf or counter where your child is always seeing them! It doesn’t do much good to bring the books home, just to sit in a basket or stacked in their room! It makes it more eye-catching and helps them see and remember which books they picked out to begin with!

Also, think about doing this idea with themes! If a holiday is approaching, make your book parade revolve around the holiday! Or a specific theme you may be working on, such as being polite, have those books on display for the kids to get excited about reading! What a great way to help them learn about things that are going on around you, as well as having a great way to display the books that they can dig into whenever they want!


4. Find the Best Writing Tools for Your Child

When you are first starting to work on writing things out with your little ones, it is a great idea to make sure that whatever writing tool they are using is suitable for their little hands! Instead of going straight for a pencil, maybe have them start with chalk or wide crayons. It helps to keep kids interested when they are able to easily hold the writing tool they are using!


5. Build Fine Motor Skills to Make Writing Easier

Who knew that working on fine motor skills with younger children would help support your child’s ability to write?! By working with babies, toddlers and preschoolers in developing their fine motor skills, it helps them tremendously when they reach the stage where more formalized reading and writing begins. Make sure their little minds and bodies are ready for the skills they will soon acquire by helping them get their fingers and hands ready through playing with toys like Legos.

Use these tips to start building strong readers in your home, before your child even knows what reading is! What a great way to make it fun and easy for them and before they know it, they are learning!

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