We all know how much kids soak up info from our every behavior! When we saw this great article over at EBay.com, we knew it would resonate with a lot of our readers. Kids just don’t seem to ever miss a thing, right?! If they’re going to watch your every move anyways, we might as well make sure they are witnessing these 5 Behaviors Kids Should See Their Parents Doing! If they are going to emulate everything we do, as parents, let’s make sure that we make a point to do solid and positive behaviors that they can learn and grow from, as well! What we do and say in front of our kids matters!
- Be Affectionate
We know how hard parenting can be. We also know how much work it takes to keep the home fires burning with your loved one when you have children underfoot, fights to break up, homework to help finish, and battles to constantly referee between siblings. Who has time to show affection towards our spouse when we’re just trying to keep everyone alive for another day?!
That being said, it is SO important that our kids witness physical affection towards our spouse or significant other. According to the Canadian Counseling and Psychotherapy Association, when see their parents displaying suitable forms of affection, they will have mental images of what a healthy relationship should be like as they grow older. Who doesn’t want their child to feel that they are growing up in a loving and healthy environment!
So get ready to hug, kiss and share appropriate and loving affection with your spouse, because it’s a wonderful indicator to children of what a healthy and loving relationship should look like, which in turns, shows them what a stable home is like.
2. Disagree Responsibly and Considerately
It can be HARD to fight fair sometimes. Frustrations can start running deep in the everyday, mundane life your family has created and sometimes, you may feel the need to take it out on your partner. If they touch that thermostat one more time, you May. Just. Lose. It. Disagreements in marriage are inevitable, but how we fight in front of our children can deeply shape their emotional security, behavior, and future relationships. That’s a tall order to be cognizant of!
In a study published in Child Development, children who witnessed their parents fight a lot when they are in kindergarten were more emotionally insecure and had more mental health issues, such as depression, anxiety and behavioral problems later in life. This can deeply affect our children’s sense of security and well-being, which breaks our hearts!
So, make sure you’re fighting fair with your partner and above everything, be responsible when it comes to conflict that may arise. Let them see that it can be dealt with and resolved in a constructive manner without yelling or being irresponsible!
Think you really messed up that last disagreement? Maybe you treated your child unfairly over a punishment you handed down, or just plain made a mistake? Don’t be afraid to say those two little words that can help the progress in many disagreements and relationships!
Be the model of good manners in your home and take the opportunities to teach your children how powerful saying “I’m sorry” can really be! When they see that you aren’t afraid to say it and know that it isn’t a sign of weakness, they are going to see that and remember. Learning to apologize is such an essential communication skill and we want our children to grow into responsible adults. Let them learn the art of apologizing at home and make sure they see that you are never afraid to say “I’m sorry”.
4. Be Silly With Each Other
Face it. Everybody wants to hear the laughter of their children and know that they are happy and well-balanced. So why not make sure that you instill that laughter in your home as often as possible? Make sure you have fun together as a family and you’ll see how the ripple effect will help to keep your family close, as a result. Having fun in the home also relieves stress, boosts endorphins, and builds strong relationships. Which is the goal of all parents, right?!
Playing with your children can help to spark their imagination and creativity. And kids LOVE seeing their parents get silly, too! Take advantage of the time you have together and bring laughter into your home on a regular basis!
5. Work Through Difficult Problems Together
Is there a family problem that has developed that you are trying to shield your kids from? Are they asking questions anyways and left wondering what is going on? Sometimes, it is beneficial to present a big problem to the family, such as money issues, jobs, and responsibilities that certain family members may have, and work out solutions together. Is money tight for a birthday or holiday? By asking the family to generate some ideas together on how to get through it will help your children see that their opinions matter and that they are a valued part of the family. It also won’t become as big of a problem as it once may have been if everyone is part of figuring out a solution!
Children who see their parents working through difficult problems together, as a family unit, will learn valuable problem solving skills themselves, as well as feel love and security in the home.
Parenting can be tough business, so by trying to exhibit these behaviors on a regular basis in your home, you will help your children learn how to behave and treat strangers, friends, and the future relationships they may be in. We all want the best for our little ones!
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