Do you wake up everyday on edge, not knowing what kind of mood your spirited child might be in? House Of Rose Blog has went through these same exact feelings and had SUCH helpful tips to help. These 5 Ways to Change Your Child’s Negative Behavior may just be the lifesaver you’ve been looking for!
House of Rose Blog talks about how she had to DRAG her little boy to PreK and how he wouldn’t cooperate. He would consistently ignore any kind of threat that they would lay down on him. Nothing seemed to work!
Then one day, it affected life at her son’s daycare. They had called her asking her to talk to her son over the phone. He refused to listen to anyone. His teachers were at a loss, he was kicking people and calling people names. And this poor mom’s heart sunk.
If you find yourself in helpless situations when it comes to your child’s behavior, know that you’re not alone! Parenting difficult children has happened since the world was created! You weren’t the first and you won’t be the last. But what can you do NOW to make the situation better?
These small, but impactful changes that House Of Rose Blog made really had a positive effect on helping to correct the behavior that she had finally had enough of. And after she began working with her son, she quickly realized there were two big issues that were affecting his behavior way more than she ever realized:
- Sleep – Some nights her son wasn’t falling asleep until midnight. Despite starting the daily bedtime routine hours earlier, he would still find distractions to stay awake for hours.
- Diet – She was dealing with one picky little eater!
Finally! She found two things that she COULD be in control of with a little work and effort! And just like that, House of Rose Blog helped to transform her son’s behavior with these 5 tips.
- Take Away Something Your Child LOVES!
Maybe it’s a favorite snack. Or a specific toy or blanket? Whatever that item is, your child needs to understand that they don’t get to use that item when they act poorly. If it’s a food or drink that you’re talking about, you may even have an extra benefit – making them try something new! Say you take away juice, or their favorite treat. If you have a picky eater, this is going to force them to try something new and now always run to their favorite stand-by. Yes, they more than likely are going to scream and pitch a fit. But once it’s over? They’re going to know you mean business and will try something new!
2. Create a schedule and stick to it!
If you’re having sleep issues with your child, create that bedtime schedule and STICK TO IT! Be strict about it and make sure that they understand that this schedule is going to be adhered to from here on out! Figure out what type of schedule will work best for you (include bath, bedtime books, cuddle time, etc.) and make sure you keep your child aware, the entire time, of how much longer they have until lights out!
The first few nights may be nothing short of awful. It will take time for your child to assimilate to the new schedule, but you have to stay strong, just as House Of Rose Blog discusses! It will get easier and before you know it, you’ll wonder why things were so hard for so long before you created this new schedule!
3. Don’t Forget Quality Time
Let’s face it. Parenting can be exhausting! By the time the night routine rolls around, you might be tempted to graze through the routine and maybe skip those bedtime books or whatever quality time you may spend with your kids before they fall asleep.
This can be time that they look forward to over the course of their entire day! For those 15 minutes, you are giving them your undivided attention and they crave it! You may be tired, but you can power through those last few minutes before they go to sleep. Before you know it, it will be the extra boost you need to get through your day, because you’ll be enjoying it as much as they are!
4. Set Realistic Expectations
Again, make sure your child knows what they are going to be facing throughout the day. It helps to deter total meltdowns when they otherwise would be caught by surprise and helps you to manage their expectations, too.
Understanding the timeframes on a child’s end can be so important. While you may encounter some unhappy children when you first start this routine, you’ll see that soon, they’ll be appreciative to know what they can expect next. And it will help them know what YOU expect of them, as well!
While many may have this listed as #1, asking God for help is something that House Of Rose Blog felt strongly in doing. She knew she couldn’t do it all on her own and needed God leading the way for her, as well as knowing that he was present for her obstacles with her son. And she knows… God can move mountains!
If you have a “spirited” child, these tips will hopefully help you manage your days and get your sanity back! While it may not clear ALL bad behavior, you hopefully will experience a lot fewer negative behaviors that you had in the past!
And don’t forget… you’re not alone!
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