5 Ways to Discourage Back Talk from Kids

How many times have your kids said “No” after you’ve asked them to do something? Over and over and over again? Yup! I think it’s something every parent experiences at one point or another! These 5 Ways to Discourage Back Talk from Kids will help to nip your child’s behavior in the bud to keep the family running as smooth as it possibly can!

It’s no surprise that back talk is the #1 complaint that parents have, based on Positive Parenting Solutions‘ information! It can be such a challenge to get children to listen to us without having them roll their eyes, whining, or going so far as just simply ignoring a request. How frustrating is it and how hard can it be to now snap back? So hard!

That being said, Positive Parenting Solutions talks about how it is a perfectly normal behavior while children grow and try to determine their level of independence. They’re working out how much power they actually have within the family and when they start lashing out, it can be a typical “fight or flight” instinct kicking in. They’re testing limits and seeing what we’ll do, as parents, because of it!

But it doesn’t have to be a constant fight! These great tips will help kids find the positive personal power they are looking for and will foster independence, within limits. What a great way to help them grow up, while limiting the negative behavior when kids don’t get their way!

1. Allow Kids To Have Some Power

Positive Parenting Solutions talks about how it is great to find opportunities to let kids gain a bit of control of their own world. Depending on their age, maybe that means something as simple as picking out their clothes for the day! Or perhaps they can plan an activity for the family to enjoy together. When you attempt to let your kids have some positive power, they will be less likely to seek it in negative ways!

2. Don’t Participate

That may sound odd, but many parents don’t even realize that they are playing a role in the power struggle that is taking place in their family with the kids! Do you find your kids talking back when you are bossing them around? Would you be able to hold your tongue if you were being bossed around all day? Do your best to put a limit on the ordering and directing that goes on and see if you can find an alternative to get the cooperation you’re looking for!

3. Pay Attention

Kids are looking for not only their parents’ attention, but also their approval! That means they need your undivided attention when they are looking for the reinforcement they need. If you aren’t paying attention to them, they will find a different way to get your attention… one that you probably won’t like very much! Positive Parenting Solutions recommends that you spend 10 minutes twice a day tuning into each of your children’s worlds with no interruptions. Before you know it, you are both going to be looking forward to this time every day and your child will stop being uncooperative, as well!

4. Use Rules

Make sure there are clear rules for your household, but more important, make sure it’s very clear what the consequences are for your child, should they choose to test them! While you don’t need to be overly strict when laying down the law, you definitely need to stick to the limits that you’ve set in place!

5. Keep Your Cool

It can be so HARD to not lose it when your child is talking back and trying to get you to engage in negative behavior with them. But don’t do it! By doing something as easy as saying, “I feel hurt by the way you’re talking to me. When I hear that tone of voice, I’m going to walk away. We can talk again when you can speak respectfully to me,” you’ll notice a big change in the future how your child responds. But you have to follow through! Walk away and the next time it happens, walk away, as well. You’ll be sending the message that you aren’t going to participate in a power struggle and your child will know it does not good to fight with you if you don’t react. What wonderful advice from Positive Parenting Solutions!

And just like that, by following these 5 steps, you’ll more than likely be able to shut down a lot of the back talk that you experience with your child. How wonderful would that be?!

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Family Movie Night Success With These 5 Tips

Family Movie Night Success With These 5 Tips

One of our favorite things to do as a family is to watch movies together! The kids have so much fun and every once in awhile, they’ll let the adults pick a nice, old-school movie that we haven’t seen since we were kids! Make sure you always have Family Movie Night Success With These 5 Tips!

Story Of Five has great tips to make sure movie night is always fun with the family! What a great way to spend time together and wind down after a week of running around. It’s such a fun thing to look forward to and an easy way to spend some quality time together with little fuss!

Family Movie Night Success With These 5 Tips

There aren’t many more ways to spend time together as a family that are easier than arranging a family movie night!

1. Pick a family-friendly movie

You definitely want to make sure everyone will have fun watching the movie that you pick! It’s a great idea to let everyone pick a movie each week. That way, everyone gets a chance to choose and you will get to watch a wide variety of movies the kids will love!

2. Popcorn!

How can you possibly have a movie night without popcorn?! Every family seems to have a favorite kind and style, so grab some and get busy! Our family loves to go the old-fashioned route and use an air-popper, but Story Of Five went with microwave popcorn, which is great, too!

Family Movie Night Success With These 5 Tips

3. Popcorn Toppings!

Plain popcorn is yummy, but how much more fun can it be to add some toppings to the mix, too?! Story of Five likes to add in pretzels, marshmallows, sprinkles and chocolate morsels, and the kids get to mix-and-match as they choose! Or, just choose simple butter and salt. Whatever the family likes!

4. Movie Sign

How fun would it be to create a little movie sign to make things even more “movie night perfect”! Have the kids help create a sign saying what the movie is going to be and what time the movie is starting. What a fun way to get the kids pumped up for a night with the family!

5. Invite Others

Every once in awhile, why not add more to the mix? The more the merrier, right?! Once in awhile, maybe the kids can invite a friend over and you can even have a pajama party. Or Grandma and Grandpa can come over for a night and enjoy the family event, too! Whatever you want, mix things up to keep them fun and exciting!

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6 Tips To Help Older Siblings Deal With A New Baby

Like many parents, it can be a challenge to figure out how to help your older child adjust to your new addition! It’s such an exciting time for a family and you want to make sure everyone is doing well when baby makes their big debut. Hopefully, these 6 Tips To Help Older Siblings Deal With A New Baby will help children have a great experience when welcoming a new brother or sister to the family!

A Thrifty Mom came prepared with these 6 great tips:

1. Prepare

It’s a great idea to start doing things in your home to prepare your older child for the change they are about to experience! Start reading baby literature and even take a trip to your local library to see if your librarian can help you out with some great books to help! This is a great way for your child to know what to expect and give a voice to the emotions that may be bothering them!

It’s also a great idea to start preparing to shift some of your parenting duties to others. If you are always the one to put your child to bed or preparing different things for them, it’s the perfect time to encourage your significant other to the over some of those duties before the baby comes. It will help your child learn not to depend solely on you when the baby arrives and you’re hands are full with a newborn!

Another great way to prepare your older child for the baby is to let them pick out the outfit that the baby will be brought home in! We just love this tip from A Thrifty Mom! They can also help to decorate the nursery and pick out some baby supplies. What a great way to get them involved and excited from Day 1!

2. Baby Talk

We all know how simply adorable and irresistible a new baby is! All of the ooh’ing and ahh’ing and tons of face-to-face conversation are big things that every new baby will see from the second they are born! It’s also great because it will help your new baby recognize your face, read expressions and voice tone.

But how annoying might that get for an older sibling to sit through over and over and over again?! So A Thrifty Mom had another great tip: since you’re going to be doing all of the baby talk anyways, why not talk up their older sibling, as well?! Tell your newborn all of the great things the baby will learn from them and your older child is going to get a great boost of self-esteem, in addition to the verbal communication your baby needs!

3. One-on-One Time

We know you’re to be utterly exhausted from the lack of sleep and all of those night time feedings, but it’s important to take the extra time to snuggle with your older child, too. Make sure you build in some one-on-one time with them to read, sing, or to do any other activity that may be important to them! Make sure you tell them often how much you love them and when the day seems to get crazy, as it inevitably will, there will not be any doubt from your older child how much they are still loved.

4. Expect Acting Up

It can be quite a jolt to a child’s system to suddenly have a new baby around 24/7! As much as they may have seemed prepared for the change before the baby was born, there is bound to be a little regression once that little bundle actually shows up and stays for good!

You may see behavior such as sucking on a pacifier again, drinking from a bottle, or having accidents all of the sudden if they are potty trained. It is more than likely just a short-term coping method that they are using to process the big change that they are suddenly experiencing! This too, shall pass.

5. Keep Discipline Consistent

Your older child still needs to have the consistent discipline that you were using with them before the new baby arrived, so make sure you stick to your guns! Even if you’re too tired, A Thrifty Mom talks about how important it is to stick to the rules and consequences that have already been established in your home. It helps to keep life predictable and will also help your other child to feel more secure, knowing that not everything is changing in their life!

6. Create a Nursing Basket

We absolutely love this great tip from A Thrifty Mom! Have a small basket of new little toys or activities that you will be able to take with you whenever you need to nurse or do something for the baby. Make sure this is something that is only used when you are busy so the novelty of it will last. Your older child will be so excited about their “special treat” when your baby needs you, that it will help them get over any jealous or insecure feelings that they may have.

Bringing home a new addition to the family can be such a joyous and happy time. But it can also be stressful, for many different reasons! By using these great tips above, though, the transition that the baby’s older siblings are experiencing will  be smooth and make things a little easier. It is also going to help set the stage for great sibling relationships!

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5 Baby Hacks for New Dads

We all know there are hundreds of parenting books around that will help a new dad with all of the things that have to do with their new bundle of joy! From feeding, changing and caring for that new baby, you’re likely to find out everything you need in a book or online. But, Mens Health talks about the 5 Baby Hacks for New Dads that aren’t in the books, but they will definitely save your sanity!

If you’re hoping to find some last-ditch strategies that may help to calm your crying newborn, or your looking for some home hacks to do the trick, these tips may just help you out when you’re in a jam!

1. Flip Your Baby’s Socks

We all know it happens. Your baby  just WON’T. STOP. CRYING. and you can’t figure out why. You’ve fed him, you’ve changed him, you know he’s fully rested. So what could possibly be the problem?

Armin Brott, author of The New Father and founder of MrDad.com suggests checking out your little baby’s feet!

“Sometimes what you’ll find is the baby has little sock threads wrapped around his toes,” says Brott. “That can make him uncomfortable, or even hurt him.” Who knew?

That being said, make sure you always put your baby’s socks on inside out. That way the inside threads won’t be caught around his toes and it will be one less thing to check when your little bambino is inconsolable!

2. Find Yourself A Cheap Yoga Mat

What? A yoga mat? You’ll love this sweet hack that Mens Health has! Instead of spending $30 on a portable baby-changing mat, grab yourself a cheap yoga mat! Cut it into rectangles and you’ll have six spongy, easy-to-clean changing mat… all for about $10!

You’re going to find that baby gear can be super overpriced. If you focus on what you need and what the function is for the situation, you can get creative and save some money!

3. Save the Baby Nail Clippers… Use Your Teeth!

Newborns are born with fingernails, but those little things grow like weeds! Unfortunately, that means you have to be careful, because your child may unintentionally scratch their face if you don’t keep those nails at a short length.

The advice from Brott? Skip the nail clippers and use your teeth instead! Since baby nails are so soft, they are really easy to just bite off. That means you also won’t be accidentally nicking that little tiny finger with a clipper, which you are bound to do when you start cutting a baby’s nails!

4. Always Choose Zippers!

Dress your baby one time in an outfit that is full of snap buttons and you’ll quickly realize that squirming babies and buttons don’t mix! So how come it seems like all of those cute little newborn outfits are full of snaps?

If you’re afraid of catching your baby’s skin in the zipper, don’t be. The risk is pretty small. Compared to the hours it will take you to dress them in a snap button outfit, you soon be buying out every store of their zippered baby clothes moving forward!

5. Watch That Diaper Switch!

It may seem like second nature to just take off your baby’s diaper before you have the replacement diaper ready. Anything to get that wet diaper off their skin ASAP!

But… that isn’t the wisest decision! Cold air can trigger petting and before you know it, you’ll be getting peed on in a flash if you don’t have that new diaper ready and waiting as soon as you get that dirty diaper off!

Don’t worry. If you can’t remember this tip, you’ll remember it the first time your little guy pees right in your face or on the couch!

And just like that, the new dad in your life is going to be armored with some quick hacks to make life a little easier when mom isn’t around! We don’t give dads enough credit! They totally got this newborn thing!

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10 Things Kids Will Never Forget

An amazing childhood… That elusive thing that some children don’t get to experience, but others do. These 10 Things Kids Will Never Forget are a great step to make sure that your child’s early memories are positive and sweet!

You don’t need a lot of money or tons of toys to make sure your child will have a positive childhood. Many of those things don’t last and it isn’t what people remember as they grow. Creating sweet memories are all about the simple things in life!

1. Read To Them

The 36th Avenue discussed how a magical thing happens when you read with your child. Books create an entirely new world for your kids and you all get to be a part of it together! No matter how old they are, make sure you read to them and build their imaginations!

2. Listen To Them

We all know how easy it is to ask your child to wait a second until you finish whatever it is that you’re working on. There never seems to be enough time! But sometimes you never can get that moment back. If it’s something important to them, let’s make it important to us!

Stop and know that whatever we are doing will be there when our child’s moment of triumph is over. Give our children the gift of knowing they can count on us whenever they may need it, no matter what we may be doing at the time!

3. Hug Them

We all need a hug once in awhile! The 36th Avenue talks about how it’s important to give our kids affection when they are looking for it. Even when our kids get older and it may seem like the biggest embarrassment!

Even if you have to tell them that YOU are the one that needs a hug, it’s a symbol of love, reassurance, happiness and protection!

4. Create Family Traditions

Family traditions are so much fun! Even if it’s something as easy a a family movie night. It creates time together as a family and everyone gets to incorporate their favorite treat, too! Who doesn’t love a fun movie with some homemade popcorn!

Sharing blankets and snuggling up together, figure out what can be your fun family tradition and start incorporating some fun time together as a family!

5. Share A Meal

Creating a safe space for meal with your family can be something that never will be forgotten as your child grows. It can be a treasured time, as discussed by The 36th Avenue.

Even if one of the members of your family is gone for the night, it doesn’t mean that everyone else should forgo the family meal! What a big blessing, even if there is always the rush of life and a lack of time. If it’s the one time your family can get together to decompress and share your life with the rest of your family.

It doesn’t have to be fancy and it doesn’t have to be dinner! Even if you meet for breakfast before everyone goes off on their daily adventures, it’s a wonderful thing to do together!

6. You Are My Favorite

While we should never have a ‘favorite’ when it comes to our kids, it is important to make sure that you treat your children as your favorite, no matter what age they are! Every child should be made to feel special in an individual way.

The 36th Avenue talks about how with her own mom, she always knew that she was her mom’s favorite 10 year old, 15 year old, and even now, her favorite 37 year old. It’s not about picking a favorite between your children, it’s about letting them know that they are your favorite “age”, no matter what it is!

7. Celebrate

All kids are different and they succeed in many different ways. Some may be good at reading, while others excel in sports. The important thing, though, it to make sure that they all feel successful from their parents, no matter what that accomplishment is!

Believe in your child, be their biggest fan and always tell them how proud you are of them!

8. Play

Kids naturally love to play! Make sure you give them the chance to just be kids and enjoy the fun that they deserve!

Make sure you play with them, though! Give your child the gift of knowing that they will always have time to spend with their parents, playing! Whether it’s a game the entire family enjoys, or playing a sport in the backyard, get down and dirty with them and let them see how much you love spending time with them!

Have fun together!

9. Remember

No matter how little the event may seem to you, it is the highlight of your child’s day! Make sure you don’t let those little moments pass you by. All of the rehearsals, sports games, parent teacher conferences. Make sure your parents know that you were always there for them, no matter what!

Take pride in all of their little accomplishments. They are so excited and when we see their excitement, it’s contagious!

10. Love Them

For many, this is as easy as breathing. Loving our children comes naturally and wholly. But show your children you love them! Make sure they never doubt, not even for a second, that even if they need a bit of discipline, they are truly loved.

Build up your children and work hard not to break them down. Offer guidance and positive reassurance and make sure that love is freely given!

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Tips to Unspoil Your Kids

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No matter how great your kids may be, there always comes a time when they go from their best behavior to a total meltdown in less than thirty seconds. The most put-together parents can lose it, as well, when this happens! But if it’s a pattern, red flags may be up all over and it may be time to look into Tips to Unspoil Your Kids.

Thanks to Living Well Spending Less, there are five great tips that can help parents feel like they are doing the best they can for their kids. To make sure they are being respectful, behaved and appreciative of all things they receive. It can hurt when our kids act spoiled, so turning around that behavior is imperative, no matter if it can be a long process!

Luckily, kids often respond well to kindness, empathy and unselfish acts! We just know how to push them in the right direction!

  1. Engage Your Kids in Regular Discussion

A great way to help our children be unselfish is to talk to them about it on a regular basis! Us parents are far from perfect, too, but when talking about the idea of charity and giving to others, you’d be surprised how they suddenly have ideas and wisdom to contribute!

Living Well Spending Less suggested discussing charity drives, food or coat collections or other charity items that you can get involved in with your children. It’s important to let our kids know that other kids in our area, not just even in far away countries, may not be able to afford many of the things that we take for granted every day. By having them help to go through their things to donate, they learn how giving can impact those around them. It’s not always about what they receive!

2. Set Goals and Delay Gratification

How many of you remember saving for that VERY important thing when you were a kid? Whether you saved your holiday and birthday money, or saved money from a part-time job, once you were finally able to buy that special item, it meant the world to you! THIS is what we need to incorporate in our kids’ lives more!

Living Well Spending Less talks about how kids lose the sense of what something is worth when things are given to them often and freely. By teaching our kids that earning a reward brings satisfaction and a sense of accomplishment, it helps to unspoil our children!

Next time your child asks for something, hold strong and talk about a plan for what they can do to earn the item! Discuss how much the item costs and that it isn’t in the budget for the family, but if you can think of a plan together, they would be able to earn it sooner rather than later! Have them help to think about what they can do to earn enough money to purchase their heart’s desire!

On the flip side, it can also teach an amazing lesson when you need to take a toy away from your child if they are acting up and need to lose a privilege. But don’t think this will be easy! You’ll face an adjustment period and you may have some severe pushback! Stand firm, however, and you’ll soon see that working towards a goal will help them feel successful and proud. This, in turn, is going to improve behavior and entitlement!

3. Help Your Child Be Grateful

Regularly showing gratitude can help change not only your child’s mindset, but your entire family’s views! By writing thank you notes for items they receive, it helps them be gracious. Living Well Spending Less talks about how this isn’t just a matter of etiquette, but because it teaches kids to be thankful for the positive things in the life from the people who they love. It helps them reflect on the kind actions of others! And don’t forget to do it yourself, as kids notice what their parents do, as well!

Another fun idea… how about making a daily routine of asking your kids what they were the most grateful for? Whether it’s on the way home from school, or around the family dinner table, it helps them reflect on the positive things in their life and to put even the smallest things in perspective!

4. Encourage Positive Outlets and Expressions

A great reminder from Living Well Spending Less is that kids can struggle with dealing with their emotions at times. We’ve seen how quickly our child can change their tune from one moment to another, but many times it’s because they just don’t understand how to express their emotions in a positive way.

Help to teach your children how to count to ten, take a deep breath and take a minute before responding to something that may be completely overruling their little world. It helps to give them coping tools that help them to feel that the energy and choices that they make are in their control! By finding a resolution that is positive, it helps them to identify emotions and do so in a healthy way.

5. Lead by Example

We all know that some days are better than others. We can struggle to deal with our own emotions, so it can be hard to work with our child to positively express their own. But it is exactly what we need to do in order to be a great role model for our children!

Parents set the tone for their household, so by approaching life with a positive attitude, it will hopefully lead our children to do the same. Whether it’s with chores, emotions, hard times and fun times, kids will respond quickly and may even teach us a thing or two, as well!

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6 Values To Help Teach Boys to Become Great Men

We all want our little boys to be as successful as they can be, but we may need to remember that success isn’t necessarily measured by money, wealth, or material possessions. That’s right, it can be about what kind of man they turn into! So take a peek at these 6 Values To Help Teach Boys to Become Great Men!

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The Mom behind What’s Up Fagans shared her 6 important values that she is raising her sons with. She talked about how sometimes the world can be such a scary place, you may not want to let your kids out of your sight for one second! It can be scary to hear the things that young kids talk about these days!

But we all know that there comes a time when our kids will leave the nest. This is when the values that we’ve worked on instilling in them become as important as ever! That’s why What’s Up Fagans shared six things that they feel parents can do to raise young boys well in today’s society.

6 Values for Raising Sons to Become Great Men Someday

1. Love And Respect Is So Important!

So many of us may shower our kids with the words “I Love You” 50 times a day, but sometimes telling them just isn’t enough! What’s Up Fagans talks about how parents can show their kids that they are loved, as well! By giving them examples of this, you’ll teach them, in turn, to reach out with love to those around them!

2. Teach Them A Strong Work Ethic

It can be hard in today’s world to make sure your kids are able to take care of themselves well. So many people in our society have become so entitled! By giving them chores to do and things around the home that they are responsible for, it’s going to teach them a strong work ethic. They will soon learn how to be responsible for big things around them as they grow, including their own actions!

3. Keep the Positives In Sight

We’re not great at everything we do, so why would we expect our kids to be great at everything?! What’s Up Fagans talks about how to focus on the positive when it comes to our kids. It will help them to feel good about what they are doing and help their strengths sore even more! Make sure to praise their efforts at new things and to not compare them to other siblings or kids their age! They are their own unique individuals!

Always make sure that your kids know that you are proud of them, because all kids want to make their parents proud! By showing your kids that there is good in this world, they’ll be able to keep a positive approach to life when they are faced with the negatives that they are bound to come across. Helping our kids find the good in the world is a great thing for them to take well into adulthood!

4. Teach Self Worth

How many times do kids question their self worth? By not having the coolest clothes, the best possessions, or not being the smartest in their class or doing well in sports, they suddenly feel like they aren’t worth of anything and give up.

What’s Up Fagans talks about how parents need to really work with our kids so they don’t fall down this slippery slope of not believing they have self-worth! Focusing on their individual gifts and talents will help to propel them into the future so much better than having the latest material possession!

5. Set Boundaries and Give Consequences

Don’t let your child break the rules without having them know that there will be consequences. But more importantly, follow through! We know how hard it can be to have your child upset when you’re the “bad guy”, but it will help them as they grow into young men!

Kids need to know that they need to abide by a certain set of rules so they don’t continue to push the limits. By doing this, they will learn respect not only for your rules, but also for the other rules that they will inevitably come across during the lifetime!

6. Don’t Live Afraid

Aren’t parents always afraid of the worst happening when it comes to their children? What’s Up Fagans knows that it’s a big fact for many parents! We all fear the worst is going to happen!

But it’s not something that we should do because it’s something we may inadvertently pass on to our boys! We want our kids to grow up knowing that despite the bad, there is still a lot of good in the world, as well. Which means that even if they make mistakes and make a wrong decision, by letting them do things for themselves, it will only help their confidence and ability to make decisions later in life!

We all know that there is no way to parent perfectly, but by applying these concepts, it may make the chance of raising a little boy into a great man a bit easier!

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